Before I become a Pastor/Priest, I desire to use my freedom to say what I want without fear of getting fired. So here is an important issue that I feel the church DOES NOT talk about beyond the outplayed "celibacy outside of marriage". The topic is taboo. What is ideal is no longer always practical. There needs to be space where Christianity can serve as a vessel for practice, conversation, and work in today's society.
I think it's a good practice to update into words every few years ideas on sexual ethics and principles. Following are some of the fruits of my recent personal update on my sexual ethics. Sexual intimacy not only takes place with your body but your mind. Therefore, you can be sexually intimate with someone to an extent without another being physically present. I will elaborate more on this in Part 2 of this at a later date.
Sexual intimacy on any level exist to bind two people together. At this juncture, I do not see a point in acting if one is not 100% there in mind, spirit, and body. It's a binding action that elicits emotional intimacy and therefore, should be exclusively delved into for that purpose (and procreation, if you can do that sort of thing). It is important to care more for the person that you are engaging with than the sexual act itself. Therefore one should exercise thought and discipline prior to giving to someone or taking from another.
A renewed relationship with God and the passion that is exuded in that relationship has morphed some beliefs. I want the passion I have for God to transfer to the one that I am making love to. I want God to be all up in that and for that sacred place to be a place where I not only experience my significant other but where I experience God. If I cannot invite God into that sacred place, then something is wrong. It comes back to being 100% there. If I cannot be there with my significant other with all that I am, I'd rather transfer that energy and passion towards God and read more. If I can't wholly nurture you, I'd rather nurture my relationship with God and who I am in God.
Some of what I've been reading claims that our desire for sexual intimacy, pleasure, and passion is either unidentified desire for God in that way or exclusive desire for God. For me, I can relate to an extent. It's an ecstatic passion inside us that pushes us towards uniting with someone. If you reach deep for your passion about God and acknowledge it, I don't think it's super far off from what we desire to exercise and have intimately with each other. A binding partnership is our given means of physically exercising our love out for Christ. I believe the closer we draw to God, the better we come to understand this.
Which leads to being exposed (aka emotional intimacy). This can be achieved to an extent by means that are not sexual. I had a pastor 13 years ago say to me that intimacy was a way of saying, "into me you see". It's so true. It breaks down to our willingness to be vulnerable, exposed for who we are, and then share that! The height of sexual intimacy is emotional intimacy. I don't think God requires our sexual ethics to be classic "Christian" black and white. I think God desires to share in his goodness that he created for us to ultimately share in and with him.
I think it's a good practice to update into words every few years ideas on sexual ethics and principles. Following are some of the fruits of my recent personal update on my sexual ethics. Sexual intimacy not only takes place with your body but your mind. Therefore, you can be sexually intimate with someone to an extent without another being physically present. I will elaborate more on this in Part 2 of this at a later date.
Sexual intimacy on any level exist to bind two people together. At this juncture, I do not see a point in acting if one is not 100% there in mind, spirit, and body. It's a binding action that elicits emotional intimacy and therefore, should be exclusively delved into for that purpose (and procreation, if you can do that sort of thing). It is important to care more for the person that you are engaging with than the sexual act itself. Therefore one should exercise thought and discipline prior to giving to someone or taking from another.
A renewed relationship with God and the passion that is exuded in that relationship has morphed some beliefs. I want the passion I have for God to transfer to the one that I am making love to. I want God to be all up in that and for that sacred place to be a place where I not only experience my significant other but where I experience God. If I cannot invite God into that sacred place, then something is wrong. It comes back to being 100% there. If I cannot be there with my significant other with all that I am, I'd rather transfer that energy and passion towards God and read more. If I can't wholly nurture you, I'd rather nurture my relationship with God and who I am in God.
Some of what I've been reading claims that our desire for sexual intimacy, pleasure, and passion is either unidentified desire for God in that way or exclusive desire for God. For me, I can relate to an extent. It's an ecstatic passion inside us that pushes us towards uniting with someone. If you reach deep for your passion about God and acknowledge it, I don't think it's super far off from what we desire to exercise and have intimately with each other. A binding partnership is our given means of physically exercising our love out for Christ. I believe the closer we draw to God, the better we come to understand this.
Which leads to being exposed (aka emotional intimacy). This can be achieved to an extent by means that are not sexual. I had a pastor 13 years ago say to me that intimacy was a way of saying, "into me you see". It's so true. It breaks down to our willingness to be vulnerable, exposed for who we are, and then share that! The height of sexual intimacy is emotional intimacy. I don't think God requires our sexual ethics to be classic "Christian" black and white. I think God desires to share in his goodness that he created for us to ultimately share in and with him.
*This is not about marriage; It's about responsible relationship*
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